Him....

I love him

He is not perfect

But he is mine

He has he struggles

But he also carries mine

I love him

He is my everything

He is my reason

He is a better father than most

He has his flaws

He sees past mine

He loves me so deeply

He is my soul mate

I love him

He is mine

He makes me feel

He is my dream man

He is my best friend

He is my rock

Really America?

Something has been really bothering me for the past little while, and that is America's issues with marriage. America, home of the free, where you can live and worship how you please...... Unless you're a polygamist or gay..

I watch Sister Wives, I love the show. It makes me so mad that in a country that was founded on freedom of religion, this family cannot live and worship how they want. It is part of their religion to take on multiple spouses, and as long as there are no child brides, sexual crimes, and forced participation, I say let them do it. The Brown women are all CONSENTING ADULTS, and were at the time of marriage. They raise their children in their religion but have openly stated that in the end it is up to the children as individuals to decide whether or not to continue on with polygamist beliefs. Not one child, or wife, in that family is being forced to stay, or live the lifestyle. Now obviously the children are all under 18 and have to abide by household rules, but once they leave the home their parents have told them to find their own path, and that no matter what they choose there is still a place for them in the family. As long as they are able to support themselves without government assistance, and are a happy functional family, I belive Kody and all his wives deserve the right to a legal marriage. Three of the 4 wives are "spiritual wives." In order for this country to continue to call itself a free country, the other 3 wives should have the option of becoming a legal wife as well. They aren't hurting anybody. They are good people, as are many polygamist families. It's unfortunate that only the bad, Warren Jeffs types, make the media. There are radical members to every religion, if we allow those individuals to define our opinions of any religion, then we are flawed. Anyway my point is, a person should be legally allowed to marry as many people as they want as long as its all consenting, they can afford and no one is getting hurt or abused in any form. It won't hurt you or your beliefs unless you allow it to, end of story.

Which brings me to my next point, gay marriage. Gay marriage should be legalized, there is nothing else to it. All these people claiming that it takes away from traditional marriage and just making stuff up. Marriage is about love and committment to another person. Who cares if that person happens to have the same parts as you. I honestly feel that if we looked at gay marriage vs. straight marriage divorces, there are ten times more in "traditional" marriages. The most crazy claim is that legalizing gay marriage is going to encourage more people to be gay.. Um.... you're either gay or your not. Sexual preference isn't something you believe, it's something you are. (Correct me if I am wrong please.) You don't convert to homosexuality. Gay individuals that have not come out yet, may engage in a "traditional" relationship, that doesn't change the fact that they are gay. Legalizing gay marriage is going to do this country nothing but good. It will open the door for those individuals that aren't ready to open up and say they swing the other way. "Cover up" marriages, that inevitabley will end in divorce, will probably be reduced. The divorce rate in this country will more than likely go down. Some people say, "Well it's immoral." I'll correct you, it's immoral IN YOUR OPINION! Key word there bein OPINION. Stop worrying about other people's eternal salvation and worry about your own. It's the same thing as plural marriages, it's not going to hurt you unless you allow it to. If you live a good honest life, you're not going to be turned away from Heaven because your neighbor Larry has a husband named Bob.

You want and deserve a good, happy life right? Well so do other people. Shut up with your harsh judgements and critizism, just live and let live, and most importantly, treat EVERYONE with love and respect. And remember, you can't get to Heaven on rollerskates. (Name that movie)

Whew....

October and Fall..

I love fall, it is by far my favorite season! There's nothing bad about it. The atmosphere, the smells, and activities, all amazing. I would be perfectly happy if it was fall all year round. The best things to ever happen to me have mostly all happened in the fall, mainly October. There's a romantic, peaceful vibe that comes across the world in this glorious month. I don't know if it's the vibrant colors of the leaves. The warm sweaters and evening walks. The Halloween season. The spicy smells. I don't know what it is, but I LOVE it.

This year has been quite the different year for me. I've had to take a giant leap back from myself to look at the person that I was becoming. I did not like that person. It was only a few weeks ago that it all hit me and knocked me on my ass, hard. The only person who can change the direction I was headed, was me. What does this all have to do with fall?? I'm starting a new season of my life. The branches of me are shedding their old leaves to pave the way for new ones. I've sported the same leaves for a while now, and now that I see they need to go, I see the beauty in them. (plain ol' green leaves just weren't doing it for me) Change is hard, change is good. I know I'm in for a rough ride of rediscovering myself. But it's all worth it! I am so excited to get back to being Amber! 'Cause she's pretty effing awesome. This may sound silly but fall is the perfect time for this all to happy to me. It has always been the time when I'm out and about doing things that make me happy. I'm going to start up new hobbies and dive back into old ones. I'm going to let my family, friends, and neighbors know that I care about them. I'm going to climb into a cozy sweater and watch football cuddled up with the love of my life and our little man. This fall I'm making it a goal to do things that make me happy and encourage others to do the same! Take time for yourself. Don't lose yourself in the person that you think other people want you to be. BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE. I learned this lesson a long time ago, but somehow forgot it in the chaos of life.. It is 100% impossible to make someone else truly happy, if you are not happy yourself. Again, this may sound silly, but I'm am writing a list of things I can do that will make me happy, and I am going to do them all, or at least try to, in the month of October. It's my goal to keep myself busy with happy work and hopefully create a habit of it so that I don't keep falling back into the same misery trap. As I do each item I'll write a totally awesome blog about it! So keep in touch! (I don't know if I have any readers out there, but I can pretend!)

Happy Monday!

Hi, Hello, How are ya?

So it's been forever since I posted on this lovely thing. I've decided that I need more hobbies in my life so I am going to start posting on the blog again, but don't hold me to it!

So I'll just give you all a super quick "teaser" update.

All of us over at the Forman household are doing pretty well. Jim is working at L-3 Communications as a Project Planner. It's an incredibly high stress job, but he is amazing at it. Julian is 15 months old yesterday and the biggest sweetheart ever. He is a little clone of Jim. He is so funny and has such a bold personality. I have just started a new job at a place called Thermal Technologies. I am over contractor relations. It's interesting so far. We're still living out in Herriman and taking our life as it comes to us.

Right now I can't really think of anything else to write about so this is it for the day. Maybe I'll do a little post featuring Julian this week so you all can get to know our little man!

Have a great Monday!